Those folks who insist on involving you in every problem in their personal life and their work life. The people who, if they didn’t have a problem, would invent one. We all have to deal with them and the aftermath of dealing with them always seems to be complete exhaustion.
If you want to get out of the maddening crowd, you have to deal with these people because their main goal is to drag you into their quicksand pit. Today, I’m going to show you how to stop them.
The “drama club” members are whiners of the first-order. Their life is always in crisis, they’re filled with rage or misery or both and it’s never their fault. When all is said-and-done, they don’t want any help. They just want to wreck your day too.
It seems like these people are impossible to get away from. They’re usually family members you can’t offend or they’re co-workers and you have to maintain a close working relationship with them.
One good thing about the “drama club” is that they show up unannounced. They interrupt whatever you’re doing. You have things to do that are important to your job or your personal life and they just interrupted you. You need to get back to what you’re doing.
It’s time to express some empathy, “Gee Frank, that sounds terrible.” And then it’s time to get back to what you’re doing. “You know Frank, I’d love to hear about that but I’m right in the middle of something that I’ve got to get done. Can we get together later?”
Don’t wait for an answer. Turn back to what you are doing and start doing it. When Frank tries to interrupt you again, say, “Really Frank, I need to get this done.”
Don’t give in.
You’ll only have to do this a couple times, Frank will get the message.
Frank and his counterpart, Miserable Margaret, wreck people’s day because people enable them. You have to stop being an enabler. You know down deep in your heart that Frank and Margaret could care less about your advice. They just want to whine. They’re having a pity party and you’re invited.