Are you having a bad day and your inner voice is telling you, “You’re not good enough?”
Guess what? We all have that same inner voice. And your inner voice is just as wrong as mine is.
For some reason when we are going through a tough time, we seem to be driven to place the blame for it and the easiest target is ourselves. If you buy into what your inner voice is selling, you can let it destroy you.
Today, I’m going to give you four ways to shut your inner voice up and prove to yourself that you are good enough.
Don’t believe everything you hear.
Your inner voice is a smart little critter. It knows when you’re the most vulnerable and that’s when it shows up. The key to shutting it up is to know it’s coming and be prepared.
I have a notebook where I write things down. One section of notebook is dedicated to things I’ve done that I’m proud of. Things that were recognized as successes by me and by other people. When the voice shows up, I get my notebook and I start reading. Guess what? That’s right, the voice goes away.
Stop comparing yourself to other people.
Comparing yourself to other people is a lousy idea no matter who you’re comparing yourself to. When you compare yourself to someone who’s a role model for you, you’re setting yourself up to fall short. If you compare yourself to someone who’s not as good as you, you’re setting yourself up to become lazy.
Don’t compare yourself to another person. Set your goals and build a timeline to achieve them. Keep a record of your progress and compare yourself to that. In other words, set your own standards.
Focus on progress not perfection.
Perfection is the enemy of progress. You’ll never achieve it. By and large perfectionists never accomplish anything. Unless you consider driving everyone around them crazy to be an accomplishment.
Go back to your plan. Define a realistic goal and build a realistic plan to achieve it. Then focus on that. You have something tangible, you have something that by definition is going to make a difference. Get that done, take a deep breath and enjoy that accomplishment, and then move on.
If it makes sense, you can always improve on your success. But only if it makes sense.
Your past is past.
Make peace with your past. You can’t change it, no matter how hard you try. And in fact, the harder you try to change your past the more damage you’ll do your present.
Everybody has a past and everybody has things they’d like to change. Nobody can. People who are successful understand that nothing they can do will change the past. They also understand that focusing on today’s achievements will change the future.
It’s past, get over it. You’re in the present, get on with it. Look forward to the future, enjoy it.
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