Here we are in the holiday season and you’ve probably worn yourself out thinking about and shopping for gifts to make everybody happy. If you’re like most people you forgot to get something for the most important person in your life. That would be you.
The best gift you can give yourself this holiday season is the gift of peace and happiness. It won’t dent your budget, you’ll be a new person with a new outlook on life, and every one of your relationships will improve.
The first step, and the biggest step, is to learn to love and accept yourself. It’s a trait all successful people have mastered and you really can’t do anything until you do that.
Most people find themselves constantly comparing themselves to others. That’s a surefire method to always fall short because most of us look for things that we envy.
When you accept who you are you don’t have to worry about those comparisons. When you accept who you are you have a real foundation to build who you want to be.
If there’s a better holiday gift to give yourself I can imagine what it would be.
People tend to be uncomfortable with the idea that they should “love themselves.” It sounds selfish and self-centered. It’s not. After all, Jesus told us to “love our neighbors as ourselves.” So, how in the world do we love ourselves and how we learn to accept ourselves?
The first step is to understand that perception is reality. The proof of that is in the old saying that “love is blind.” We’ve all seen couples who seem to have everything and nobody can figure out why. The reason is simple, they perceive something in one another that nobody else does. That perception is their reality.
Your first task to loving and accepting yourself is to creating that perception.
Love and acceptance starts with your attitude and your attitude depends on what you think. You can either let your feelings control your thinking or you can let your thinking control your feelings. If you “feel inadequate” you will soon think you are inadequate and your thinking process will then make you inadequate. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.
In order love and accept yourself you need to get on the other side of that prophecy.
“You are what you think.” We all require constant attention to an adjustment of our thinking. The best way to do that is to pay attention to what we tell ourselves. If you have an issue, for example, with thinking you’re inadequate in some area of your life, the next time you catch yourself thinking that stop cold. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, let it out slowly, and focus on one thing that you do that is adequate. Think about how to build on that and you’ll soon find yourself overcoming that feeling of inadequacy. Thinking the right thoughts will crush feeling the wrong things.
This simple exercise will begin to build your perception of yourself as someone who is not just adequate, but very capable. What you think about drives what you do, and when you improve your thinking your performance automatically improves.
This is a great place to start planning for the New Year. When you begin to love and accept yourself for the great person you really are you’ll find that peace and happiness surround everything you do. That’s because peace and happiness don’t come in from the outside, they flow out from the inside. When you begin to love who you are and accept yourself being at peace and being happy the natural results.
So have a happy holiday season and make sure to give yourself the best gift of all. If you got some wisdom to share or some questions, put them in the comments or click below to send me an email. I’ll respond in 24 hours.